Side note...

To my readers, I apologize for my many months of absence. You have been writing and urging me to keep blogging and I'm sincerely sorry for not following through. Recently, a lot has happened in my personal life and I did not have the energy to write. However, I am getting back into my creative mode and you can all be sure to see something new on a weekly basis. Thank you for all your love and support. Love, Luxi

More About Me...

Diaries of a Chinese Lesbian is a personal retelling of my life from my first girl crush to the complexities of my present life. I'm sharing my stories in the hopes of helping other girls and women in their own coming out experience. We are not alone in this world and we should never feel like we are.

Body of a Lesbian



Title: Body of a Lesbian. Drawn: February 26th, 2008. Tools: Wacom Intuos3 4x6 digital drawing.

Contrary to popular belief, not all lesbians are overweight bull dykes. There are those who are athletic, slim, and feminine. And yes, they are what some call 'lipstick' lesbians, but they're what I like to call 'hot'. I have to admit that these girly-lesbians are difficult to find or maybe they just look too 'straight'.

Since coming out onto the 'scene' I've learned a few tricks on how to tell if a girl is gay, well, at least interested in the same sex.

1. The 'Sisterhood' Nod
Imagine a girl in a supermarket. She's hot and could be your type. You make your way casually over to her in the breakfast aisle without looking too suspicious. Now here's the crucial part, as you reach over for a box of cereal, try and make eye contact. When the girl notices you, insert a subtle nod combined with scanning her up and down with your eyes. If done properly, it should imply that you like what you see and would probably like what's underneath too. And if she's gay and interested, then she should return with a similar look followed by a rather suggestive comment. If not, then she might look concerned, smile politely walk away. Either ways, there isn't much to lose, unless you hold your dignity at high value.

2. The Body Language
Personally, I don't think this one works at all, since some women just have the tendency to be touchy feely. But it's basically trying to be more 'physical' with your gestures. For example, touching her arm while laughing, grabbing their hands when showing awe or excitement, etc. Remember this is intended for 'naturally' occurring emotions. Spontaneously grabbing a random girl's hands in excitement isn't going to get you any where.

3. The Lesbian Porno
This one's intended for those who are curious about whether they or someone they know are gay. It was invented over a conversation I had with one of my straight girlfriends. You see, most women straight or curvy can find lesbian porno beautiful and even attractive (two or more sexy women pleasuring each other?, what's there not to like?) So if you're gay then you can imagine yourself in the porno and enjoying it, but if you're straight then thinking about the porno is as far as you want to go.

Sexual arousal is probably a deciding factor between gay and straight. But what's in a label anyway? Isn't everyone bi anyway?

2 comments:

  1. Sabine Hossenfelder said...
     

    look at this: that was my first ever painting with oil colors

    (I'd guess significantly more women would agree with your last sentence than men)

  2. jing said...
     

    i love method number 1, the best part? i can actually see you doing that, oh money.

    acutually, this explains SO much... :) good on!

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